This might be too simple and easy of an explanation but I sometimes think that people just genuinely want chocolate and wine to go together so badly that it might be more of a mental persistence thing. Kinda like how one might wish for pizza and hot fudge sundaes to somehow go together just because they both are so great and indulgent.. Or why a sunset and a bright, beautiful glowing moon cant (visually) co-exist at the same time. In theory it sounds great! We have two indulgent, out of this world pleasures - they can't not go together in some way! I don't mean we literally ponder enjoying these combinations at the same time together but just that we love the indulgence/beauty of both so much that we may subconciously long to somehow wish we could indulge in them simultaneously, if that makes any sense??? The fact that neither of these things work at the same time logically or fundamentally doesnt really matter! It's just wishful hoping, so to speak.
And wine and chocolate do have the parallel quality of both being, texturally, sensuous items. And we tend to be attracted to both items emotionally rather than practically. That's why we love both right? It just seems that they are somehow, someway meant to go together. How could two such luxurious indulgences not be enjoyed together somehow? It appears, on the surface, to be a match made in heaven. I think this may be the main thinking behind why the wine and chocolate combination seems to continually exist.
I'm not insisting that if some people DO enjoy a certain chocolate with a certain wine that they are simply delusional. Well, maybe I did just say that but I don't mean it to come off that way. I do believe someone if they say they go together great and they, personally, enjoy the combination. More power to them. Everyone's tastes are their own. They would certainly know their own taste and preferences better than me, or anyone else. Just as long as they genuinely believe me when I say I dont really enjoy food with champagne. I'd rather savor them on their own but when I do have foods with them its usually peanuts or popcorn (of course I dont think those two items inherently conflict with champagne to begin with, quite the contrary to my tastes) yet I still understand, on the surface, why someone might call me crazy for enjoying the combination yet not enjoying actual "food/meals" with it.
At any rate, I also enjoy many chocolates, from milk to 60% dark (although I'm not crazy about white chocolate or chocolates that are mixed with stuff - cherries, fillings, etc.) Yuck! But pure, plain, sensuous chcocolate bars - of course! Yet, as much as I'd like to say I've discovered a magically great combination with wine, I simply, and sadly, never have. Not that I've cared enough to try every possible combination under the sun. I've just decided that, as disbelieving as it is that two such intimate foods wouldn't co-exist, they just, well... don't. I wish they did! I definitely love both! I think the main problem is that even with dark chocolate, it is still always too sweet/rich/fatty to match any "normal" red wine, even the most concentrated, oaky, fruity cab, syrah or zin that exists. It doesn't seem to matter. The wine will always end up being overtaken and will just come off as "thin", sour, and alcohol-ish when contrasted to the chocolate.
The only workable combination I could envision is an intentionally "sweet wine" but then A) we aren't no longer talking about "normal" wines anymore and B) I simply dont care for sweet wines at all by themselves let alone negatively doubled by an otherwise sensuous good chocolate that is now just making me sick because now I'm mixing it with some sweet, rich alcohol...yikes! Doesn't mean the composition doesn't stylistically work together though or that others might not enjoy sweet wine with chocolate...
Take Care,
Jeff